Good Morning Everyone,
Our theme for this month: “Balance”
Our Bible verse for today: “If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.” Deuteronomy 24:5 (NIV)
Our thought for today: “Putting the Honey in the Honeymoon”
I enjoy using the “Every Man’s Study Bible” for my personal daily Bible readings. It’s a study Bible that is specifically designed for men and it includes lots of helpful (and often humorous) sidebars and editorial comments. Such is the case with Deuteronomy 24:5. The editors glibly referred to the practice described in that verse as “Putting the Honey in the Honeymoon”.
In this verse we read that early in the history of the nation of Israel newly married men were given an entire year off from work so they could stay at home to firmly establish a good home life with their new wife. Evidently this was a cultural thing that was planned for. Couples must have saved the money to cover their expenses for a year. Family and friends evidently helped; employers were willing to hold the job position for them; and the man spent that first year doing all the many things a man needs to do at home in order to make sure his wife is well cared for and happy.
This may be where we originally got the old adage “If momma ain’t happy then nobody is happy.” They seemed to recognize that a stable home life provides a solid foundation for the rest of life. But if life at home is unstable and chaotic, it can be a major distraction that prevents us from really focusing well on other things.
The primary reason so many marriages fail is because the spouses get caught-up in the busyness of life and they drift away from each other. Rather than doing the things necessary to keep their marriage healthy, they get sucked into the whirlwind of careers and kids and hobbies and friends, and they drift away from their spouse mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
That is a classic example of what happens when our lives get out of balance. Its how husbands and wives grow apart; its how distance is created between parents and children; and this is how we slowly but surely get fat and out of shape. But it doesn’t have to be that way. We can be intentional about establishing correct priorities (that’s what was happening in Deuteronomy 24:5) and then we can take the steps necessary to protect those priorities. We can remain balanced.
I know a couple who appear to be on a twenty-five year honeymoon. They have been married for about twenty-five years and yet they still act like they’re on their honeymoon. They hold hands, they laugh and giggle, they treat each other not just as spouses but as best friends, and they do lots of stuff together. They’re intentional about keeping the honey in the honeymoon and keeping that marriage strong.
That’s a good example for everyone and for all of life – not just for husbands and wives in a marriage relationship. Establish right priorities and good balance. Then do the things necessary to protect that balance.